Most people don't lose the most in divorce because they're reckless or uninformed. They lose because they enter the process unprepared-reacting emotionally while the system quietly does exactly what it's designed to do.
In Get Divorced Without Getting Screwed, veteran divorce attorney and men's divorce strategist John Nachlinger explains how divorce really works-and how to protect yourself before costly mistakes become permanent.
Drawing on more than twenty years of experience helping thousands of clients through divorce, custody disputes, and complex family transitions, Nachlinger provides a clear, strategic guide to navigating divorce without unnecessary conflict, financial devastation, or prolonged legal warfare. This is not a legal textbook or a motivational pep talk. It's a practical, real-world roadmap written by someone who has seen the process from every angle.
Inside, readers learn:
- Why waiting or "hoping it works out" often causes the most damage
- How timing, emotion, and misinformation quietly destroy leverage
- The financial traps that catch even smart, high-functioning people
- How custody and money are negotiated long before court
- Why preparation-not aggression-is the strongest position in divorce
Blending legal insight with lived experience, Nachlinger challenges the traditional scorched-earth model and offers a smarter alternative focused on clarity, planning, and control. Written for adults facing divorce-or seriously considering it-this book gives readers the tools to protect their future without turning the process into a war.
Divorce doesn't have to ruin your life. But it will if you don't understand what you're walking into.
About the Author :
John Nachlinger is a divorce attorney, mediator, and men's divorce strategist with more than 20 years of experience helping people navigate one of the most disruptive moments of their lives-without unnecessary conflict, financial destruction, or prolonged chaos.Over the course of his career, John has worked with thousands of clients facing divorce, custody disputes, and complex family transitions. He is widely known for challenging the traditional "scorched earth" approach to divorce and for pioneering flat-fee and strategy-first models designed to give clients clarity, predictability, and control-rather than fear and endless legal bills.What sets John apart is that he's not just a lawyer who studies divorce-he's lived it. His work blends legal insight with real-world strategy, emotional intelligence, and a deep understanding of how divorce actually plays out in people's lives, finances, and families. That perspective has made him a trusted advisor not only to clients, but also to professionals, media outlets, and audiences nationwide.John is the host of the Get Divorced Without Getting Screwed podcast and has been featured in outlets including Newsweek, The Associated Press, The Guardian, HuffPost, Law.com, Parents Magazine, NPR radio, and numerous national podcasts and television appearances, as well as local ABC and FOX affiliates.He lives in New Jersey with his husband, Rafael, and their daughter, Sydney. When he's not working, he can usually be found cooking, traveling, or reminding people that divorce doesn't have to destroy your future-if you approach it the right way.
Review :
"This book starts strong with practical advice and continues that pattern throughout."
"Too many advice or self-help books make you wait until the very end for a pithy list or advice that can't truly be deciphered (or practically applied). This book not only shares applicable learnings, but does so from page 1."
"The Four Pillars are not only about self-protection, but also self-preservation."
"The Emergency Quick-Start Guide is gold in itself. It is practical, non-emotional, IMMEDIATE guidance. Sometimes we need the level-headed direction when we are not personally at our most level-headed."
"This book is the practical, non-emotional guide all men can use to prepare for the potential of divorce - and come out on the other side."
"This book helps the average individual understand the nuances of the divorce process and helps bring more 'traditional' notions of divorce into modern times."
"This is a treasure trove of checklists, assessments, and lists. All things that can aid in practical, non-emotional preparation. This should be the only book you need when preparing for the possibility of divorce."
"This book provides balanced advice with real examples to aid in comparison and decision-making."
