Hitting their mid-thirties and still uncertain about relationships, sex, and love, CJ DeBarra launched into a quest for understanding.
Growing up in West Cork, Ireland, CJ knew they were ADHD, but its implications remained mysterious. To write this book, they drew on academic research, medical studies, the lived experience of other queer ADHD individuals, and their background as an ADHD journalist. CJ fearlessly explored the raw realities of heartbreak, love, and sexuality, and delved into the complexities of desire, the impact of distractions during intimacy, the role of dopamine, and the allure of unconventional sexual experiences. Moreover, CJ sheds light on alarmingly low diagnosis rates for women, transgender individuals, and non-binary individuals, urging readers to advocate for improved healthcare.
This book also has a wider focus, which explores the reasons why the diagnosis rates are so low for women, transgender and non-binary folk, why this matters, and why we should be demanding better healthcare.
Join CJ on a voyage of self-discovery, where vulnerability, courage, and unwavering determination unravel the mysteries of relationships, sex, and love for ADHD individuals and their loved ones.
Review :
"A meticulously researched, brutally honest, and incredibly helpful memoir/self-help book. A must-read for anyone with ADHD, anyone who thinks they may have it, and anyone who wants to understand their ADHD partner." Robyn Nyx, author
"This was a fascinating read. The author not only tells a good, personal story but also shares extensive scholarly and personal research in a very accessible way. It is a very entertaining read while still packed with information. It should be recommended reading for anyone struggling with ADHD, especially if they are queer, and especially if they are in a relationship, whether they or their partner (or both) has ADHD." Margaret Burris
"I related to so much in this book and it has helped me to understand how I can be in relationships. It's refreshing to see such open honesty when it comes to certain aspects of sex, especially when it comes to some of the 'harder hitting' parts of it. I hope this book sparks someone out there to do more research into neurodivergent rates in women, non-binary, and transgender people but I know that would really help a lot of us out there." Lis Reads
