Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder

Isn't it time you stopped walking on eggshells? Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to by someone close to you? Are you the focus of their intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel criticized and blamed all the time? If the answer is "yes," someone you care about may have borderline personality disorder (BPD)-a personality disorder that causes negative self-image, emotional volatility, and difficulties with interpersonal relationships. The good news is you can bring peace and stability back into your life. This newly revised and updated self-help classic will show you how, one confident step at a time. Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped more than one million people who have friends and family members diagnosed with BPD to understand this difficult disorder, communicate without apology, and set limits. This third edition includes new (and surprising) information on narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), men with BPD, children with BPD, and coping and communication skills you can use right now to stabilize your relationship with your loved one. This practical and compassionate guide will help you: √ Make sense of the chaos √ Stand up for yourself and assert your needs √ Defuse arguments and conflicts √ Protect yourself and others from violent behavior "My 'gold-standard' recommendation for learning how to live with, love, and care for people who struggle with BPD." -Jeffrey C. Wood, PsyD, coauthor of The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook

About the Author :
Paul T. Mason, MS, is a health care executive currently serving as vice president of Ascension Medical Group in Wisconsin. His research on BPD has been published in the Journal of Clinical Psychology, and his work has appeared in national and international print media.

Review :
"My 'gold-standard' recommendation for learning how to live with, love, and care for people who struggle with BPD." -Jeffrey C. Wood, PsyD, coauthor of The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook "This third edition of Stop Walking on Eggshells makes a very important contribution to better understanding the complexities of working with individuals displaying behaviors consistent with both BPD and NPD. The authors recognize that multiple factors and other diagnoses may also be operational and need to be taken into account. The advice and recommendations are practical, well explained, and give hope to clinicians and families, as well as those struggling with these perplexing disorders." -Debra Resnick, PsyD, clinical psychologist in private practice in the Philadelphia, PA, area who has been teaching and practicing dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) for approximately twenty years "An important resource for clients who are being emotionally abused. It identifies two types of BPD-conventional and unconventional. While conventional BPDs typically exhibit overt behavior such as self-harm and suicidal ideation, unconventional BPDs don't believe they have any problems. They project their pain onto others and refuse to take responsibility for their harmful actions. As an expert in emotional abuse, I have identified this behavior as emotionally abusive." -Beverly Engel, LMFT, internationally recognized expert in emotional and sexual abuse, and best-selling author of The Emotionally Abused Woman and The Emotionally Abusive Relationship "Stop Walking on Eggshells is the quintessential book for families to understand BPD. The cases and examples are compassionate, accurate, enlightening, and starkly realistic-providing a true sense of how people with BPD think and feel, as well as how family members experience their behaviors. It includes comprehensive strategies, techniques, and responses for the most difficult situations, and provides the newest information about causes and help for BPD." -Margalis Fjelstad, LMFT, author of Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist and Healing from a Narcissistic Relationship, and coauthor of Raising Resilient Children with a Borderline or Narcissistic Parent "Very impressive! This third edition of Stop Walking on Eggshells is a compendium of practical advice. Written in a friendly style, it's like reading a letter from someone who really cares about you. New chapters, such as the chapter on BPD in children and teenagers, further enhance the book, discussing a previously ignored issue. I strongly recommend this five-star book." -Christine Adamec, coauthor of When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart "Stop Walking on Eggshells makes good on its promise to restore the lives of people in close relationships with someone diagnosed with BPD. It is a rich guide to understanding and coping with the reactions aroused in others by troubling BPD behaviors that negatively impact relationships. Readers will find this book very useful and beneficial." -Nina W. Brown, EdD, professor and Eminent Scholar at Old Dominion University in Norfolk, VA; and author of Children of the Self-Absorbed