About the Book
In a relationship with someone who has BPD or NPD? You deserve clarity, safety, and the power to choose what’s right for you.
If your romantic partner, spouse, husband, wife, boyfriend, or girlfriend struggles with borderline personality disorder (BPD) or narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), you may feel trapped in a cycle of gaslighting, emotional abuse, blame, and high-conflict arguments. You may question your reality, feel trauma bonded, or struggle with codependency and fear of separation. Whether you are married, dating, considering divorce, or navigating coparenting in a high-conflict custody battle, the emotional toll can be overwhelming.
It is not your fault.
From the author of Stop Walking on Eggshells, BPD and narcissism expert Randi Kreger offers a practical survival guide for romantic partners living with, loving, or leaving someone with BPD or NPD. Grounded in research and informed by DBT (dialectical behavior therapy) principles developed by Marsha Linehan, this guide provides clear tools to help you protect yourself, set boundaries, and make confident decisions about your relationship.
In this book, you’ll learn how to:
- Recognize patterns of gaslighting, verbal abuse, psychological abuse, and covert manipulation
- Understand trauma bonding, codependent dynamics, and high-conflict relationship cycles
- Set strong boundaries and defuse explosive arguments safely
- Evaluate whether to stay, separate, divorce, or pursue counseling
- Navigate coparenting, custody battles, and post-separation conflict
- Rebuild self-trust, emotional resilience, and long-term recovery
Whether you choose to work on your marriage, seek separation, or move toward divorce, this compassionate, no-nonsense guide helps you step out of confusion and into clarity. You’ll gain the understanding, coping skills, and confidence needed to protect your well-being and create a more peaceful future.
You are not stuck. There is a way forward—and you can move toward safety, strength, and a healthier life.
About the Author :
Randi Kreger is coauthor of Stop Walking on Eggshells, and author or coauthor of three other books: The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook, The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder, and Stop Walking on Eggshells for Parents. Kreger is owner and moderator of the Moving Forward family support group, which can be accessed at her website: www.stopwalkingoneggshells.com. She has given presentations throughout the United States and in Japan. She also has a one-on-one coaching practice which can be accessed through her website.
Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, is a family lawyer, therapist, and mediator in San Diego, CA. He is cofounder and chief innovation officer at High Conflict Institute, and trains lawyers, judges, mediators, and counselors worldwide in respectfully managing high-conflict disputes and personalities. He is author of more than twenty books and manuals, developer of the New Waysfor Families method for separation and divorce, and blogger for Psychology Today with more than six million views. His website is www.highconflictinstitute.com.
Review :
“This book shares helpful and abundant examples from both caretakers and their partners that give a real feel for the dynamics of these relationships. It shows ways to understand the high-conflict partner while also setting limits on their negative behaviors. And, it helps caretakers see how healing their own trauma, not buying into gaslighting, developing compassionate detachment, and not invalidating their partner can ultimately make changes in the relationship.”
—Margalis Fjelstad, PhD, author of StopCaretaking the Borderline or Narcissist
“So happy to discover that the authors of the Stop Walking on Eggshells series have turned their focus to include narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) since the two disorders make up so many high-conflict couples. The authors did an excellent job of defining the two disorders, discussing the similarities and the differences, helping readers discover the unmet needs that drew them to their partner, and offering them important skills to help them improve their relationship.”
—Beverly Engel, LMFT, author of The Emotionally Abusive Relationship
“Empowering and enlightening, this book is a beacon of hope for those navigating toxic relationships with partners suffering from narcissistic or borderline personality disorders. It unravels the intricate web of psychological and emotional manipulation with clarity and compassion, providing solace and understanding to those who have felt silenced and invalidated. It is a vital resource for reclaiming one’s sense of self and finding the strength to break free from destructive patterns. A must-read for anyone seeking to heal and thrive.”
—Lisa A. Romano, best-selling author, life coach, expert in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse, and founder of The Conscious Healing Academy
“This is a one-stop resource for partners! Using clear and jargon-free language, this book achieves several goals. It explains borderline and narcissistic personality disorders using modern and relevant frameworks. Secondly, it provides practical advice to deal with challenging behaviors and communication patterns. Finally, it gives readers usable suggestions to protect and care for themselves with self-understanding and knowledge.”
—Daniel E. Mattila, MDiv, LCSW, schema therapist in private practice in New York, NY
“Stop Walking on Eggshells for Partners reminds us that navigating these precarious and devastating relationships is a tightrope walk on barbed wire. This book provides much-needed and practical guidance and clear realities on how to manage antagonistic relationships with partners—relationships that people often cannot just ‘leave.’”
—Ramani Durvasula, clinical psychologist, and New York Times bestselling author of It’s Not You
“If the soulmate with whom you fell in love shifts between episodes of angry rage, self-righteous stonewalling, or jealous control of your activities and then showers you with love, this book will resonate deeply. It will not only awaken you from the confusion and fear you have been living with, but also empower you to make better decisions for yourself, your relationship, and your future.”
—Corrine R. Stoewsand, PhD, director of Foro Mindfulness; founding member of Fundacion Foro’s clinical team providing dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) in Buenos Aires, Argentina; and author of Genuine Validation
