From Him, Not Them: A Young Woman's Guide to Relying on God for Validation, Identity, and Guidance

If your superpower wish is to be invisible, you might want to reconsider. Sure, it sounds convenient when you're trying to dodge chores, skip a test, or avoid drama. But being overlooked like you don't matter? That's not a superpower. I know what it's like to crave being seen, valued, and loved. After a breakup left me feeling invisible, I chased worth through achievements, approval, and appearance-until it led me into an eating disorder. I'm not the only one. For over twenty years, I've mentored young Christian women wrestling with the same questions: Where do I belong? Who am I, really? Is my identity based on what others think-or who God says I am? We search for meaning, worth, and direction in grades, sports, relationships, or social media-things that can't meet our deepest needs. What if we've been looking in the wrong place all along? From Him, Not Them: A Young Woman's Guide to Relying on God for Validation, Identity, and Guidance is a Christ-centered roadmap for young women navigating the pressure to prove themselves. You'll hear honest stories from girls who've struggled with insecurity, people-pleasing, anxiety, and self-doubt-and found a better way forward. You'll discover: How to stop hustling for approval Why feelings make a terrible GPS The cost of stressing over solutions Why self-sufficiency wears you out The danger of flirting with spiritual darkness How to walk in step with the Holy Spirit If you're looking for Christian guidance, help with identity in Christ, or a tool to encourage teen girls or college women in their faith, this book offers truth, grace, and spiritual direction. You don't have to keep looking outside your relationship with God for what He longs to give you. True security comes from Him, not them.

About the Author :
TRACY HARPER is a passionate communicator, teacher, and writer who has spent over twenty years in campus ministry with Cru, helping young people navigate life's challenges with God's guidance. A Pennsylvania native, she earned a degree in English and Secondary Education from Towson University, graduating summa cum laude. She began her ministry journey serving college students across Pennsylvania and Maryland, later completing Cru's Institute of Biblical Studies program. She then spent six years at the University of Hawaii in Hilo, continuing to invest in students from diverse backgrounds. Her call to full-time ministry was deeply shaped by her experiences as a college student, traveling to all 50 states and 183 cities with First Priority's What's Up America Tour. While on the road, she witnessed firsthand the spiritual struggles of young people, solidifying her passion for walking alongside the next generation in their faith. Now living on the Eastern Shore of Maryland, Tracy enjoys life near the water-partly because it's peaceful but also because it reminds her of her "Lucky we live Hawaii" days. She has home-educated her three daughters through eighth grade for thirteen consecutive years, loves slow mornings with coffee, and has been known to drive off the road when spotting a rainbow. A devoted foodie, reader, and traveler, she also writes devotions to help women reset their relationship with God, themselves, and others at tracyharperwrites.com.

Review :
"From Him, Not Them is the kind of book I wish every young woman could keep in her back pocket as she navigates identity, purpose, and the ache for belonging. Tracy Harper writes with the kind of raw honesty and spiritual clarity that disarms shame and invites healing." -Dr. Zoe Shaw, author of A Year of Self-Care and Stronger in the Difficult Places "Tracy Harper's From Him, Not Them provides a road map for older teens and college-aged women to expose false guides and lead them on a fresh path to peace, joy, and confidence in their relationship with God." -Heather Holleman, PhD, bestselling author of Seated with Christ "You will laugh at her relatable experiences, see yourself in the struggles she shares, shed tears, and find new hope. Begin to discover who you are and why God made you." -Judy Douglass, Global Director for Cru Women's Resources, speaker, podcaster, and author "A refreshing and relatable approach to helping young women learn to rely on God in the midst of life's often challenging circumstances." -Cas Monaco, VP of Missiology for FamilyLife and author of Gospel Conversations Reimagined "Thoughtful, engaging, and thoroughly grounded in Scripture, this book offers a compelling vision of Christian identity that will challenge young girls on who they look to for their identity and equip readers to fully rely on God." -Annie Weber, author of Astounding Truths of the Bible "As readers journey through this book, the Holy Spirit's flame will begin to burn brighter within them. By the end, they'll feel a passion to take what they've received from Him, not them, and pour it out in service to God." -Kelly Ann Snyder, author of Living Perfectly Loved "Tracy Harper offers a powerful reminder of where our worth truly comes from and how to find strength in God's love rather than the approval of others." -Carrie Watts, speaker, podcast host, author of Crisis of Faith "Combining real-life stories from high school and college-aged women with her personal journey through life's ups and downs, Tracy makes deep biblical truths relatable." -Whitney Akin, author of Overlooked