23 Ways to Leave: Toxic People, Patterns & the Pain They Left Behind

Leaving isn't always as simple as it sounds. People talk about toxic relationships like you should just walk away, but when you are in the middle of it, leaving can feel like trying to breathe underwater. 23 Ways to Leave is for the woman who feels stuck, unsure, and exhausted, yet knows deep down she was made for more.

Mindy Deane weaves together her own story of loss, grief, and survival with twenty-three practical and soulful ways to step out of cycles that keep you small. This is not a book about getting over it or pretending you are fine. It is about slowing down, telling yourself the truth, and choosing yourself again and again, until freedom becomes real.

Inside you will discover:

Tools to recognize the patterns that keep you trapped

Ways to rebuild your self-trust after betrayal and self-doubt

Gentle practices to soothe your body and regulate your emotions

Encouragement to set boundaries without apology

Stories that remind you that you are not alone in your struggle or your healing

Each chapter is both a spark of inspiration and an invitation to take action. With compassion and honesty, Mindy reminds readers that leaving is not just about walking away from someone or something. It is about leaving behind the pain, shame, and fear that no longer belong to you.

This book is for the woman who has whispered, "I can't keep doing this" but doesn't know what comes next. It is for the one who secretly wonders if she is too much or not enough. It is for anyone who wants to stop surviving and start living.

With warmth, vulnerability, and fierce encouragement, 23 Ways to Leave offers you a matchbook of small sparks. One choice at a time, you can burn down what is destroying you and light your way forward.

Mindy Deane is a life coach, writer, and truth teller who believes in the healing power of honest conversation. She spent over two decades as a hairstylist, where the salon chair became her first classroom in listening, holding space, and helping people see themselves more clearly.

Her own experiences with loss, grief, and toxic relationships shaped her into the guide she is today. Mindy writes and teaches from the heart, showing others how to reclaim their power, walk away from what breaks them, and create lives filled with meaning and connection.

She lives in West Texas with her two children and a circle of chosen family and friends. When she is not writing or coaching, she can be found dancing in her kitchen, dreaming up new ways to bring people together, or turning the volume up on empowerment anthems.

23 Ways to Leave is her first book.