这不是一本教你如何把孩子送进名校的书，
而是一本帮你找回孩子、修复亲子关系的书。
不是方法论，不是成功学，
是一位既是母亲也是老师的美国华人女性，
在二十多年育儿与教学的真实经验中，
写给千千万万个正在学习"如何爱"的父母的陪伴手记。
你会在其中读到日常的对话、小小的懊悔、难堪的冲突、温柔的和解；
你不会看到"完美父母"，但你会学会靠近-
靠近那个在房间里沉默不语的孩子，
靠近那个你以为已经疏远的自己，
更靠近一种笃定的信念：
"关系好，是一切幸福的前提。"
This is not a book about how to get your child into an elite school.
It is a book about finding your child again-and repairing the parent-child relationship.
It is not a manual. Not a formula. Not a guide to "success."
It is a companion's journal written by a Chinese-American woman who is both a mother and a teacher,
drawn from more than 20 years of real experience in parenting and education,
and offered to the countless parents still learning what it means to love.
Within these pages, you will encounter everyday conversations, small regrets, awkward conflicts, and gentle reconciliations.
You will not find "perfect parents," but you will learn how to draw closer-
closer to the child who sits in silence in the next room,
closer to the self you thought had drifted away,
and closer still to a quiet, steady conviction:
Strong relationships are the foundation of all happiness.
