Where do I even begin?: How we got here, how we get out, how we never go back.

WHERE DID YOU GO? Amidst the chaos and disruption of our younger years the truth of who we were becoming definitely 'got lost', but we didn't really go anywhere. We just got quiet, and forgot about our own needs as we tried to fit in, keep the peace, and please others. As our mind became clouded with confusion, fear and loss, we began to search outside ourselves for the missing pieces. But now, as we learn to open up and speak our truth, we get to reclaim the person who went in to hiding, the one who stayed under the radar, who kept out of the firing line, trading freedom for safety. We get to create space and energy to take back ownership of our precious life and to stop searching outside of ourselves for what was never really missing in the first place. Everything we need to know about our emotional history is revealed by looking at our emotional struggles in the present moment. So, ask yourself: who and what is the source of the emotional war you're fighting every day? And then ask: haven't you had enough yet? IT'S NEVER TOO LATE TO BE WHO YOU MIGHT HAVE BEEN What you'll find within the pages of this book will put you on a path that leads you to emotional freedom. You'll learn how to heal eight key emotional experiences from childhood that continue to impact your wellbeing and your mental health to this day. You'll learn how to recognise them and how to stop them from running and ruining your life. I'll teach you a process that has helped me and countless others to be underwhelmed by overwhelm, and how to manage anyone and anything with grace and dignity rather than with anxiety and fear. You'll discover how to break the disempowering mental and emotional patterns you picked up in childhood so you could survive your environment. You'll unravel the reasons behind your self-sabotage, procrastination, and the coping mechanisms you created to stay safe. You'll learn how shame has controlled you but doesn't belong to you, that forgiveness is not necessary for peace of mind, that there's no such thing as an inner critic, and that you may have misunderstood the true meaning of trust. You'll learn how to meet your own emotional needs, heal your triggers, how to set and keep unbreakable boundaries, how to feel comfortable with confrontation, and how to finally show closure the door. You'll uncover the deeper reasons why your emotional history still drives your decisions, beliefs, and perspectives, and you'll gain the awareness you need to regulate yourself emotionally, and calm your nervous system when panic and anxiety creep in. Whether you engage just a little or a lot, the truths and practices in this book will bring you enlightening self-awareness and longed for peace of mind. I'm sharing a method that guarantees you'll retain your emotional power even in the most confrontational situations with the most difficult people. By the end of the book, you'll understand the reasons behind your choices, feelings, thoughts, and behaviours. You'll discover eye-opening truths about yourself, your past, your purpose, and your future potential. You'll be less triggered and less afraid to do those things you want to do. You may still see the same faces, interact with the same old negative people but inside you'll be smiling, not taking anything personally. You'll recognise their patterns and may even have compassion for the person they've become. Above all else I hope this book helps you realise that you're not alone. Whatever was done to you or said to you, whatever harmed and hindered you, can be healed and transformed.