Stop Dating on Feelings. Start Gathering Facts.You've been told that if you love each other, everything will work out. You've been sold the lie that "following your heart" is enough.
But 50% of marriages end in divorce-many of them started with love, chemistry, and good intentions.
What went wrong? They ignored the data.
The painful truth: Most people spend more time researching which car to buy than who to marry.They dive into relationships based on attraction, excitement, and hope-without asking the hard questions that reveal compatibility, character, and readiness for covenant.
Then they wonder why marriage is so hard.
What if there was a better way?What if you could enter marriage with confidence instead of just hope?
What if you could gather the data you need to make a wise, God-honoring decision about the most important relationship of your life?
That's what this book is about.
Dating for Data gives you a proven, biblical framework to evaluate relationships through three non-negotiable questions:
THE QUESTION OF FAITHIs this person truly saved? Do they hold Christ as Lord, not just Savior? Are they in church? Are they passionately pursuing God-or just maintaining?
Without spiritual alignment, you cannot build oneness.
THE QUESTION OF FAMILYWhat family patterns did they inherit? Have they done the healing work to break generational cycles? Can two family systems merge-or will they collide?
Your future spouse didn't come out of nowhere. They came from somewhere. And that somewhere shaped who they are.
THE QUESTION OF FINANCEHow do they handle money? What's their work history? What debt are they carrying? What does their credit report reveal about their integrity?
Money doesn't just reveal spending habits. It reveals what someone worships, trusts, and prioritizes.
But this book goes beyond the three questions.You'll also learn:
How to break soul ties from past relationships that are keeping you from bonding in marriage
Why physical boundaries aren't legalistic-they're protective, and how to build intimacy without touch
The red flags, yellow flags, and green lights in every area: faith, family, finance, work, emotional health, and purity
When to engage and when to disengage-and how to make the decision with clarity, not fear
How to prepare for oneness through 12 essential conversations every couple must have before marriage
How to thrive in singleness while you wait-because your life doesn't begin when you get married
Why marriage is a Kingdom assignment, not just a personal relationship-and how to build something that impacts eternity
This is not a book about finding your soulmate.This is a book about gathering the right information, making wise decisions, and building a marriage that glorifies God and lasts a lifetime.
Perfect for: Singles who want to date with purpose and wisdom
Dating couples who need clarity on whether to move forward or walk away
Engaged couples preparing for covenant marriage
Pastors and counselors looking for a comprehensive premarital resource
Parents who want to guide their children toward healthy relationships
Stop guessing. Start gathering data.Marriage is too important to leave to chance.
Get the information you need. Make the decision with confidence. Build a covenant that lasts.
