From the author of the best-selling Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy, a next-level guide for people looking to build secure attachment in nonmonogamous relationships.
As polyamory continues to make its way into the mainstream, more and more people are exploring consensual nonmonogamy in the hope of experiencing more love, connection, sex, freedom and support. While for many, the move expands personal horizons, for others, the transition can be challenging, leaving them blindsided and overwhelmed. Beyond the initial transition to nonmonogamy, many struggle with the root issues beneath the symptoms of broken agreements, communication challenges, increased fighting and persistent jealousy.
Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern and restorative justice facilitator David Cooley share the insights they have gained through thousands of hours working with clients in consensually nonmonogamous relationships. Using a grounded theory approach, they explore the underlying challenges that nonmonogamous individuals and partners can experience after their first steps, offering practical strategies for transforming them into opportunities for new levels of clarity and intimacy.
Polywise provides both the conceptual framework to better understand the shift from monogamy to nonmonogamy and the tools to navigate the next steps.
Table of Contents:
Foreword
Acknowledgements
Introduction
Chapter One: Shifting Paradigms
Chapter Two: Troubleshooting Uncertainty and Resistance to CNM Transitions
Chapter Three: Exposing the Cracks in the Foundation
Chapter Four: Managing Conflict and Repairing Past Ruptures
Chapter Five: Codependency and Differentiation
Chapter Six: Dealing with Differences
Chapter Seven: Self Transformation
Conclusion
Glossary
References
Index
About the Author :
Jessica Fern is a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional and an integrative practitioner with decades of experience and training in somatic, narrative, psychotherapeutic and spiritual therapies. She is the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Nonmonogamy and The Polysecure Workbook, and co-author of Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships and Transforming the Shame Triangle: From Shame to Love Using Parts Work.
David Cooley is a professional restorative justice facilitator, diversity and privilege awareness trainer and bilingual cultural broker. With Jessica Fern, he is the co-author of Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships and Transforming the Shame Triangle: From Shame to Love Using Parts Work. He is the creator of the Restorative Relationships Conversations model, a process that transforms interpersonal conflict into deeper connection, intimacy and repair.
Carrie Jenkins is a professor of philosophy at the University of British Columbia and the author of What Love Is (and What it Could Be) and Sad Love: Romance and the Search for Meaning. She holds a PhD in philosophy from Trinity College, Cambridge, and an MFA in creative writing from UBC.
