How to Flourish as a Psychotherapist

How do you develop a truly rich and rewarding career in psychotherapy? How can you find joy in such painful work? How do you develop your skills in the field? How can you conquer your creative inhibitions? In short, how do you flourish as a psychotherapist? Brett Kahr answers these questions, and so many more, in his brilliant new book, painting a frank portrait of the life of the psychotherapist. Taking the reader through the life cycle of the therapist, Brett offers lots of practical advice, from assessing one’s suitability for the career, to managing one’s finances, to preparing for death. His clear voice and style shine through in this authentic, readable narrative. Professor Kahr has produced a must-read, gripping account of how you can thrive in every respect in this complex and rewarding career. How to Flourish as a Psychotherapist should be required reading for every therapist, anyone considering taking up the career, and everyone who has ever wondered what kind of person becomes a therapist. This is a truly original work that should become compulsory reading by all in the field.

Table of Contents:
  INTRODUCTION Survival may not be enough Part One Building a Secure Base CHAPTER ONE A Noble, Complicated Passion Mouthwash for the Mind Zyklon B Gas in the Consulting Room Friends with Oesophageal Cancer and Vascular Dementia CHAPTER TWO Assessing One’s Own Sanity The Perfect Candidate Pathological Motivations Can We Afford to Train? CHAPTER THREE On Marrying a Library Bibliophilia Psychotherapeutica Curling Up with Sigmund Freud My Three Favourite Reading Rooms CHAPTER FOUR The Joys and Pitfalls of Training A Child in a Sweet Shop Exhausted, Frazzled, and Scrutinised Legitimate at Last CHAPTER FIVE Cultivating Brilliant Mentors Dis-identifying from Disappointing Tutors A Most Inspiring Lecturer from Mendoza A Great Teacher Under Whom I Never Studied Part Two The Art of Prospering CHAPTER SIX Perpetual Pupils Training Never Ends How to Be a Medieval Monk Swimming in Organisations CHAPTER SEVEN Attracting Referrals The Art of Advertising My Last 500 Patients Answering the Telephone CHAPTER EIGHT Managing Money Under-Charging and Over-Charging Collecting Fees Financial Planning for the Future CHAPTER NINE The Promotion of Expertise Flagrant Exhibitionism or Neurotic Inhibitionism? Generativity versus Stagnation On Stage at the Royal Opera House CHAPTER TEN Patients as Persecutors and as Privileges The Prevention of Burn-Out Hate in the Countertransference Delightful, Honourable People Part Three Thriving Beyond the Consulting Room CHAPTER ELEVEN Nourishing Fledgling Colleagues Enlivening the Classroom On Being a Clinical Supervisor A Little Drink After Work CHAPTER TWELVE Public Lecturing My Very First Paper The Length of the Applause Addressing the United Nations CHAPTER THIRTEEN Daring to Research The Humiliation of Edward Glover A Search for the Traumatic Origins of Psychosis Sexual Fantasies at the Dinner Table CHAPTER FOURTEEN Writing Articles and Books The Agony of 300 Words and the Ease of 300,000 Publishing as a Relational Experience “Not Another Book on Projective Identification” CHAPTER FIFTEEN Blue-Sky Projects Freud Thinks Big A Bestseller and a Serial Killer Psychotherapists in Prison and in the Middle East Part Four Surviving Success CHAPTER SIXTEEN Avoiding Isolation The Need for Solitude Beware the Ethics Committee Choosing the Best Dinner Parties CHAPTER SEVENTEEN Navigating Envy Winnicott’s Mutterings in Geneva Thank God I’m Overweight On Being Provocative CHAPTER EIGHTEEN Nurturing the Ageing Spine The Ultimate Narcissistic Injury The Ten-Minute Gymnasium Lounging on the Beach CHAPTER NINETEEN Embracing Idiosyncrasy Conquering Creative Entanglements Mourning Unfulfilled Dreams The Maverick in Mental Health CHAPTER TWENTY Preparing for Death The Appointment of Clinical Executors How to Retire Properly On the Shaping of a Legacy EPILOGUE My Parting Thoughts Acknowledgements About the author References Index

About the Author :
Professor Brett Kahr has worked in the mental health profession for over forty years. A clinical registrant of both the British Psychoanalytic Council and the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy, he is Senior Fellow at the Tavistock Institute of Medical Psychology in London and, also, Visiting Professor of Psychoanalysis and Mental Health at Regent’s University London. Over the decades, Kahr has worked in the National Health Service and in private practice in Central London with both individuals and couples. He is currently Consultant Psychotherapist to The Balint Consultancy and, additionally, Consultant in Psychology at The Bowlby Centre. He also serves as Chair of the Scholars Committee of the British Psychoanalytic Council, as well as Senior Clinical Research Fellow in Psychotherapy and Mental Health at the Centre for Child Mental Health. Professor Kahr is the Honorary Director of Research at Freud Museum London and, also, an Honorary Fellow of the museum. Over many years, he has enjoyed the privilege of a long-standing relationship with this institution, having served as Deputy Director of the International Campaign for the Freud Museum from 1986–1987 and, more recently, as Trustee of both Freud Museum London and of Freud Museum Publications from 2011–2020. In addition to his clinical practice, Kahr has collaborated with the media in order to promote mental health knowledge. Formerly Resident Psychotherapist on BBC2, broadcasting about mental health issues to millions of listeners, he has appeared on over one thousand radio and television programmes. In recognition of his work in this field, he has become Visiting Professor in the Faculty of Media and Communication at Bournemouth University. The United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy recently awarded him an Honorary Fellowship for his contributions to public service. Professor Kahr is the author of sixteen books and series editor of more than seventy-five additional titles on a wide range of subjects. His solo-authored books cover a range of topics, including clinical investigations of extreme psychopathology and forensic mental health, such as his titles Bombs in the Consulting Room: Surviving Psychological Shrapnel and Dangerous Lunatics: Trauma, Criminality, and Forensic Psychotherapy. He has also written on Sex and the Psyche – a Waterstone’s Non-Fiction Bestseller and a chosen title in the Sunday Times Book Club – based on his study of the traumatic, unconscious roots of over 20,000 adult sexual fantasies, as well as Celebrity Mad: Why Otherwise Intelligent People Worship Fame. His historically orientated books include the very first biography of Donald Winnicott, entitled D. W. Winnicott: A Biographical Portrait, which received the Gradiva Award for Biography, as well as the popular titles, Life Lessons from Freud, Tea with Winnicott, and Coffee with Freud. Most recently, he has published Freud’s Pandemics: Surviving Global War, Spanish Flu, and the Nazis – the inaugural title in the new “Freud Museum London Series” of history books – exploring not only how Sigmund Freud navigated the tragedies of his own lifetime but, also, Freud would have handled the Covid-19 pandemic and what lessons our world leaders might learn from those pioneering psychoanalytical concepts. Kahr had the pleasure of working closely with Kate Pearce and Fernando Marques during their early careers at the old Karnac Books and is now delighted to have published his book How to Flourish as a Psychotherapist with Phoenix Publishing House. In addition to his writing of books, Kahr also serves as Consulting Editor to The International Journal of Forensic Psychotherapy and, also, as Consultant Historian to the journal Attachment: New Directions in Psychotherapy and Relational Psychoanalysis, as well as Consultant to the Board of Couple and Family Psychoanalysis, the journal of Tavistock Relationships. Professor Brett Kahr has worked in the mental health profession for over forty years. A clinical registrant of both the British Psychoanalytic Council and the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy, he is Senior Fellow at the Tavistock Institute of Medical Psychology in London and, also, Visiting Professor of Psychoanalysis and Mental Health at Regent’s University London. Over the decades, Kahr has worked in the National Health Service and in private practice in Central London with both individuals and couples. He is currently Consultant Psychotherapist to The Balint Consultancy and, additionally, Consultant in Psychology at The Bowlby Centre. He also serves as Chair of the Scholars Committee of the British Psychoanalytic Council, as well as Senior Clinical Research Fellow in Psychotherapy and Mental Health at the Centre for Child Mental Health. Professor Kahr is the Honorary Director of Research at Freud Museum London and, also, an Honorary Fellow of the museum. Over many years, he has enjoyed the privilege of a long-standing relationship with this institution, having served as Deputy Director of the International Campaign for the Freud Museum from 1986–1987 and, more recently, as Trustee of both Freud Museum London and of Freud Museum Publications from 2011–2020. In addition to his clinical practice, Kahr has collaborated with the media in order to promote mental health knowledge. Formerly Resident Psychotherapist on BBC2, broadcasting about mental health issues to millions of listeners, he has appeared on over one thousand radio and television programmes. In recognition of his work in this field, he has become Visiting Professor in the Faculty of Media and Communication at Bournemouth University. The United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy recently awarded him an Honorary Fellowship for his contributions to public service. Professor Kahr is the author of sixteen books and series editor of more than seventy-five additional titles on a wide range of subjects. His solo-authored books cover a range of topics, including clinical investigations of extreme psychopathology and forensic mental health, such as his titles Bombs in the Consulting Room: Surviving Psychological Shrapnel and Dangerous Lunatics: Trauma, Criminality, and Forensic Psychotherapy. He has also written on Sex and the Psyche – a Waterstone’s Non-Fiction Bestseller and a chosen title in the Sunday Times Book Club – based on his study of the traumatic, unconscious roots of over 20,000 adult sexual fantasies, as well as Celebrity Mad: Why Otherwise Intelligent People Worship Fame. His historically orientated books include the very first biography of Donald Winnicott, entitled D. W. Winnicott: A Biographical Portrait, which received the Gradiva Award for Biography, as well as the popular titles, Life Lessons from Freud, Tea with Winnicott, and Coffee with Freud. Most recently, he has published Freud’s Pandemics: Surviving Global War, Spanish Flu, and the Nazis – the inaugural title in the new “Freud Museum London Series” of history books – exploring not only how Sigmund Freud navigated the tragedies of his own lifetime but, also, Freud would have handled the Covid-19 pandemic and what lessons our world leaders might learn from those pioneering psychoanalytical concepts. Kahr had the pleasure of working closely with Kate Pearce and Fernando Marques during their early careers at the old Karnac Books and is now delighted to have published his book How to Flourish as a Psychotherapist with Phoenix Publishing House. In addition to his writing of books, Kahr also serves as Consulting Editor to The International Journal of Forensic Psychotherapy and, also, as Consultant Historian to the journal Attachment: New Directions in Psychotherapy and Relational Psychoanalysis, as well as Consultant to the Board of Couple and Family Psychoanalysis, the journal of Tavistock Relationships. Professor Brett Kahr has worked in the mental health profession for over forty years. He is Senior Fellow at the Tavistock Institute of Medical Psychology in London and, also, Senior Clinical Research Fellow in Psychotherapy and Mental Health at the Centre for Child Mental Health. He holds posts as Consultant to The Bowlby Centre and, also, as Consultant Psychotherapist to The Balint Consultancy. Having worked for many years in the National Health Service, he currently maintains a private practice in Hampstead, North London, for individuals and couples. Professor Kahr is a Trustee of the Freud Museum London and of Freud Museum Publications, and he is also a trained historian with a special concentration in the history of psychoanalysis. Author or editor of eleven books, his titles include, D.W. Winnicott: A Biographical Portrait, which received the Gradiva Award for Biography; Sex and the Psyche, which became a chosen title in the Sunday Times Book Club and which appeared in serial form in both The Times and The Observer; Tea with Winnicott, selected as one of the “Books of the Year” in The Guardian newspaper; Coffee with Freud; and, most recently, New Horizons in Forensic Psychotherapy: Exploring the Work of Estela V. Welldon, an edited Festschrift in honour of Dr Welldon’s eightieth birthday. He has served as series editor for over fifty-five further titles in his capacity as Series Editor of the “Forensic Psychotherapy Monograph Series” and, also, as Series Co-Editor for both the “History of Psychoanalysis Series” and the “Library of Couple and Family Psychoanalysis”, all published by Routledge.

Review :
I found myself responding with enjoyment and gratitude to this book… Kahr is happy to share all he has learned the long way… [and] has a very serious point to make about the importance of deriving ‘deep delight’ from our work. I recommend it not only to students and prospective students but to therapists at whatever stage of their career they may be. You’ll find plenty of solid evidence and inspiration to deepen and expand your practice, indeed your life. The book seems aimed at traditional psychoanalytic psychotherapists but its wisdom applies much more widely. ‘This is an impressive and easy read (because it is well written and interesting) – a cradle-to-grave guide to building a successful practice – about not just surviving but “flourishing”. The book tackles all the stages of a career in psychotherapy, from choosing the most suitable course to what to do when you’re approaching retirement, and deals with real-life issues such as the envy of colleagues and back pain.’ ‘… this detailed and candid book … provides the reader with a comprehensive and revealing description of how to build and maintain a successful psychotherapy practice. … In lively conversational style he offers fascinating and humorous scenarios and anecdotes from different stages of his career.’ 'This is an impressive and easy read (because it is well written and interesting) – a cradle-to-grave guide to building a successful practice – about not just surviving but ‘flourishing’. [...] Not only did I invite Brett to join us, I bought a second copy of his book for a friend who is considering following this career path. So, think on this – greater love hath no man for a book he is reviewing than to buy two copies using money from his own pocket.'