Finding a Way Through When Someone Close has Died: What it Feels Like and What You Can Do to Help Yourself: A Workbook by Young People for Young People

Written by children for children, this unique workbook is both written and illustrated by children and teenagers who have experienced the death of someone close to them - a parent, grandparent, sibling or friend. They describe their often confusing thoughts and emotions immediately after the bereavement and discuss how their day-to-day lives were affected, including such diverse issues as the reactions of those around them, practical changes and managing school and schoolwork. They offer advice, based on their own experiences, on how to cope with the practical and emotional upheavals of bereavement. The workbook's interactive style encourages readers to write about and draw their own feelings and experiences, to consider personal coping strategies and examine their relationships with those around them who may be able to offer support. Advice on how to seek external support and a list of helpful agencies are also provided. The supportive and interactive style of this book will make it a valuable source of help and encouragement for bereaved children and teenagers. It will also be useful to adults seeking to understand how children and teenagers experience bereavement.

Table of Contents:
1. Letter of explanation from the authors to readers. 2. Feelings, thoughts and the way things change after someone close has died. 3. What are the thoughts and feelings? 4. Finding a way through the difficult things. 5. What difficult things have to be coped with? 6. How bad can it get? 7. What helps? 8. A letter from a teenager. 9. Practical exercises. Resources: Books, games and organisations.

About the Author :
Pat Mood has spent 20 years working with individuals and families facing death and bereavement. She has been involved in setting up a hospice-based bereavement centre, training professionals and volunteers and facilitating group work with bereaved children. She is currently a social worker at East Cheshire Hospice, Macclesfield. Lesley Whittaker was a primary school teacher for many years before training as a counsellor. She worked for six years as Bereavement Services Co-ordinator for a large local hospice. This led her into working with bereaved children both individually and in groups. At present she has a private practice in counselling, training and supervision.

Review :
Many children would find it helpful to realise that what they are going through is shared by others and quite normal and that it will get easier with time. I liked the exercises in the book which give children and young people an opportunity to access thoughts and feelings that may be confusing and express them in a way that is helpful.