Alec: The Father I Barely Knew

Alec: The Father I Barely Knew by Malcolm Alexander is a moving, meticulously researched memoir and biography tracing the life of a remarkable but enigmatic figure - Frederick Percival Jarrett Alexander, known as "Alec", as viewed through the eyes of a son seeking connection, understanding, and closure. Malcolm Alexander's father, Alec, died when Malcolm was eight years old, leaving huge gaps and unanswered questions in the author's childhood. Decades later, a chance comment by his mother set Malcolm on an unexpected journey, working through old family secrets, distant connections, and the evolving moral landscape of 20th-century Britain. What began as an intensely personal quest became a broader investigation into family, memory, and the cultural forces shaping identity. The narrative traces Alec's trajectory from a disrupted Victorian childhood through to remarkable achievements in the heart of Edwardian London's financial world. Alec successfully floated a major insurance company on the London Stock Exchange shortly after the First World War, only to have his high-flying career derailed by one of the era's most notorious financial scandals. Afterwards, he reinvented himself as a hotelier on the English south coast, becoming a respected civic leader in Worthing and later contending with the personal and social upheavals of depression, war, and changing times. Alexander's account is unflinching in its exploration of family secrets and "skeletons in the cupboard". Alec's complex private life - marked by a long-hidden first marriage, a large age gap with his second partner, issues of illegitimacy, and the pain of family separations - mirrors the untold stories in many families, handled with honesty and compassion. The narrative expands to reveal the fates of siblings, half-siblings, and earlier generations, uncovering waves of emigration, social aspiration, resilience, and love. Woven throughout is the story of Britain itself, from the optimism of the post-World War I boom and the class mobility of the Edwardian era, through to the trauma and social change of the interwar years, World War II, and the postwar welfare state. The book is enriched with evocative details of everyday life, from caravan holidays and schooldays to the rituals of Freemasonry and the grandeur of Livery dinners. Alexander vividly recreates the emotional texture of the times, and the book includes photographs, letters, and maps that further bring the story to life. Alec: The Father I Barely Knew is both a moving memoir and a masterclass in social history, offering honesty, empathy, and wisdom for anyone interested in family, generational legacy, and the quest to understand those who came before us. It will appeal to readers of biography, memoir, modern British history, and those curious about how the past shapes our sense of self. As Trevor Thamsanqa Tutu writes in the book's Foreword: "Malcolm's book is a journey-one inviting us to see the world through his unique lens. It challenges us to question assumptions and reflect deeply on our lives."

Table of Contents:
Foreword by Trevor Thamsanqa Tutu xi In medias res - Dining with the Distillers 1 Introduction 7 Part One: Disruption Loss of a Father and Secrets Revealed 1. Loss of a Father 2. An Unsettling Conversation 3. Discovering New Family Part Two: Resilience - Alec's Upbringing and City Life 4. Barnsbury Beginnings 5. City Life 6. Joining the Brotherhood 7. Destination Worthing 8. The English 9. Sensational Days Part Three: Conviviality The Life of a Worthing Hotelier 10. The Berkeley 11. Leadership comes Naturally 12. Childhood Sweethearts 13. Alexander's Hotel Part Four: Destiny & Love Alec and Joy 14. Love, Honour and Duty 15. Behind the Scenes 16. Astrological Insights 17. Time for Decisions 18. A New Career 19. Doing our Best Part Five: Choices Legacy and Reflections 20. Eric's Life in the Fast Lane 21. Judy's Travels 22. Joy's Life 23. Reflections 24. Footprints Postscript - The Bell on Southend Pier Acknowledgements Appendices Bibliography Timeline Family Trees Index

About the Author :
Malcolm Alexander was raised in North London and attended University College School in Hampstead. Inspired by holiday visits to the Norfolk countryside with his great-uncle Claude, he went on to study agriculture at Wye College, University of London. After marrying Helene, Malcolm spent several years in East and Central Africa, supporting agricultural development projects in Uganda and Malawi. Returning to the UK, he qualified as an accountant and held senior management roles, notably in the tea industry with Brooke Bond and in international drinks marketing. Later, he founded Interregna, a company specialising in management talent solutions for organisations. Over the last decade, Malcolm has focused on research and writing. His first biography, Ulendo: Claude's African Journey into War and Passion, was published in 2018. He is recognised for combining detailed social history with compelling personal narrative. When not at his desk, Malcolm enjoys tennis and is passionate about cricket.

Review :
Malcolm Alexander's journey ... is at once a labour of love and a fascinating, very personal, record of a vanished era. Stanley Johnson A very personal history - impeccable in detail and rich in background, it takes us via the Edwardian City and the post Armistice boom-and-bust to the fading charm of hotel life at Worthing and back to wartime London. Alec Alexander was a character who might have stepped from the pages of John Galsworthy, Graham Greene or Anthony Powell - in every sense a man of his times. Martin Vander Weyer Malcolm reveals family secrets and departures from the social and moral conventions of the times in an ostensibly conventional and successful life ... accompanied by a wealth of contemporary social history ... with accounts of a great and notorious financial City of London scandal of the day. Sir Nigel Davis a fascinating book ... with various skeletons-in-cupboards, family black sheep and marital irregularities running as a kind of counterpoint melody as the story develops. John Cooke Malcolm has an uncanny ability to take us on an emotional and intellectual journey, one simultaneously deeply personal and universally relevant ... challenging us to question assumptions and reflect deeply on our lives. Trevor Tut