How to Survive Change You Didn't Ask for

Life Changing Advice for Thriving in a Shifting World"…teaches us how we can get through the pain more quickly and extract greater meaning from the nonnegotiable events of life." —Ellyn Spragins, author of What I Know Now: Letters to My Younger Self Overwhelmed by life’s challenges? Exhausted by crisis after crisis in the world? Bestselling author M.J. Ryan’s How to Survive Change You Didn't Ask For is filled with advice and timely, relevant tips to help you cope, change your mindset, and ultimately thrive. Transform your mindset and find success. In today's tumultuous times, it's almost certain that you're grappling with unexpected changes—perhaps a life changing crisis like job loss or the shattering of a long-held dream. You might be surviving change at work or seeking a new place to call home. Esteemed bestselling author, renowned thought leader, and change expert M.J. Ryan returns with her powerful insights and strategies to guide you through the turbulence of change, regardless of its nature. Equip yourself with the tools to manage change. Change is seldom easy, especially when it arrives uninvited. However, within every moment of upheaval lies an opportunity for personal growth and a change for the better. Within the pages of her book, Ryan offers a comprehensive roadmap for preserving your mental acuity and enhancing your response to life's unpredictable shifts, one step at a time. With her expert guidance, your adaptability will flourish, bolstering your confidence and enabling you to not only survive but flourish in the uncertainty of life. Inside learn how to: Accept change Expand your options Strengthen your adaptability Take decisive action If you liked books about resilience such as Master of Change, Do Hard Things, or Curtis Bateman’s Change, you’ll love How to Survive Change You Didn’t Ask For.

Table of Contents:
Contents I. Welcome to “Permanent White Water” II. Seven Truths About Change Change Truth #1: Change Is the One Thing You Can Count On Change Truth #2: It’s Not Personal Change Truth #3: Your Thinking Is Not Always Your Friend Change Truth #4: Change Isn’t the Enemy, Fear Is Change Truth #5: There’s a Predictable Emotional Cycle to Change Change Truth #6: You’re More Resilient Than You May Think Change Truth #7: Your Future Is Built on a Bedrock That Is Unchanging III. The Actions of a Change Master Step 1: Accept the Change Gather the Facts Like a Newspaper Reporter What Other Information Do You Need? The Truth Will Set You Free (Or at Least into Motion) If You Can See It, It’s Yours to Deal With How Could This Be Good Luck? “Worry Well” What Core Issue Does This Trigger? Relate to Your Fear Send Out an SOS Recognize If You’re Milling It’s Good to Bitch and Moan but Not Forever Get the 3Cs in Place Choose Carefully Where You Put Your Attention Avoid Shame by Remembering That Difficulties Can Happen to Anyone Don’t Waste Precious Time or Energy on Blame Regret Well Experience the Comfort of Forgiveness Do the Three Blessings Cultivate Your Witness Self Stay Open to Miracles Find the Gift in the Change Step 2: Expand Your Options What Helps You Expand Your Thinking? How Does Your Self-Concept Need to Change? Seek Information Outside Your Box Hedge Your Bets Kill Your Little Darlings Tap Into Your Inner Resources What Other Resources Are Available? Be Like the Native Americans Create the Necessary Reserves Don’t Go into the Wilderness Without Your Compass What Are Your Inner Talents? Reexamine Your Priorities Envision Your Next Chapter Who Do You Need by Your Side? Watch the Road, Not the Potholes Step 3: Take Action Create a Story of Possibility Make Deposits into Your Hope Account Hope Is Not a Plan Get the Balls in the Air Think Through the Implications Just Do One Thing Ready, Fire, Aim Evaluate Progress If You’re Not Stretching, You’re Probably Missing Something Do What’s Needed Build Your Brand Get More Connected Create a Change Masters Circle Use an Inspiring Mantra to Keep Up Your Spirits Focus on the Upside of Scaling Back Allow Your Circumstances to Open Your Heart Step 4: Strengthen Adaptability Become a Lifelong Learner Reflect on Your Learnings IV. Twenty Quick Tips for Surviving Change You Didn’t Ask For V. Resources for More Support For Personal Support from Me About the Author

About the Author :
Known internationally as an expert on change, M.J. Ryan works as an executive coach to senior executives and entrepreneurs around the world, helping them accelerate business success and personal fulfillment. She combines a practical approach gained as the CEO of a book publishing company with methodologies from neuroscience, positive psychology, and asset-focused learning to help clients and readers more easily meet their goals.  Her client list includes Royal Dutch Shell, Microsoft, Time, the U.S. military, and Aon Hewitt. She's a partner with the Levo League career network and the lead venture coach at SheEO, an organization offering a new funding and support model for female entrepreneurs. She's the founder of Conari Press, creator of the New York Times bestselling Random Acts of Kindness series, and author of many books, including Habit Changers: 81 Game-Changing Mantras to Mindfully Realize Your Goals. 

Review :
“If you’re struggling and think that one more book can’t possibly make a difference, think again. M.J. Ryan has the rare gift of breaking things down into clear pieces that can be tackled.” —Laura Berman Fortgang, author of Now What?: 90 Days to a New Life Direction “You are always more resilient than you think. In her motivational and optimistic book, M.J. Ryan shows you how to face the unexpected and use what you’ve learned to be happier in life, in love, and at work.” —Nell Merlino, leader of Make Mine a Million $ Business and author of Stepping Out of Line “The change you didn’t ask for has a way of smacking you between the eyes. M.J. Ryan’s book teaches us how we can get through the pain more quickly and extract greater meaning from the nonnegotiable events of life.” —Ellyn Spragins, author of What I Know Now: Letters to My Younger Self “How to Survive Change You Didn’t Ask For is not only M.J. Ryan’s best book, but the most accessible and practical book yet on the subject of change to date. It contains a compendium of best practices from cross-sector disciplines and research regarding transition and change in our lives. Nowhere will you find a more inspirational, realistic, comforting and accessible book that reduces fear and reopens possibility, curiosity, and creative solutions unimagined during the most challenging of times!” —Angeles Arrien, PhD, cultural anthropologist and author of The Second Half of Life and Living in Gratitude “What if someone could whisper in your ear the secret to feeling more peaceful, more confident, more emotionally secure, more aligned with your values, more capable of taking risks, and more comfortable in your skin? Wouldn’t that be amazing?! This book is that whisper! Mary Jane Ryan's How to Survive Change You Didn't Ask For will get you through ANYTHING. You’ll learn how to set new boundaries, take bold leaps, trust your gut, create your own rules, and so much more.” —Sherry Richert Belul, author of Say It Now and founder of Simply Celebrate “Insightful, honest and refreshingly pragmatic. M.J. Ryan skillfully cuts through the noise of the guru help category and provides a hugely practical way to help yourself. This is the right book for right now.” —Jonathan Pease, author of Winning the Room “When life changes are planned and thought out, we are filled with optimism and excitement for what the future may bring. However, when that change is unexpected or imposed, we are often wrought with anxiety and worry. M.J. Ryan’s tools, as set out in her How to Survive Change You Didn't Ask For provides a thoughtful and simple resource to help each of us navigate life’s unexpected changes.” —Julie and David Bulitt, authors of Secrets of Strong Couples and cohosts of Conversations for Couples - The Podcast “M.J. Ryan’s new book, How to Survive Change You Didn't Ask For, is the manual none of us received when we came down the chute. It’s the playbook, the bible, the encyclopedia we need now. In it, she offers the recipe to help us develop the skillset we need in a world that is morphing and changing faster than ever before. With the tools she offers, we can do more than hang on for dear life. We can thrive!” —Nita Sweeney, mindfulness coach and bestselling author of Depression Hates a Moving Target