About the Book
A step-by-step workbook to help you move past anxious attachment and feel more confident in your relationships!
Has your romantic partner called you clingy, insecure, desperate, or jealous? If they go out with their friends, do you worry that they might be flirting or hooking up with someone else? Do you often worry that they're going to leave you? If you find yourself constantly on the alert or anxious when it comes to your significant other, you may suffer from anxious attachment--a fear of abandonment that is often rooted in early childhood experiences. So, how can you move past this anxiety before it hurts--or even destroys--your relationship?
Based on the self-help hit by Leslie Becker-Phelps, The Insecure in Love Workbook offers engaging activities, tips, and exercises to help you overcome attachment anxiety by developing compassionate self-awareness. You'll learn to recognize physical sensations, negative thoughts, distressing emotions, and unhealthy behavior patterns that underlie your insecurity; and respond to them in a more nurturing way--rather than beating yourself up.
You'll also discover how insecurity can overwhelm or paralyze you, negatively affecting the relationship between you and your partner. Finally, you'll develop the skills needed to stop repeating old patterns of self-doubt, neediness, and possessiveness.
If you suffer from anxious attachment, you probably know that you need to change, and yet you have remained stuck. But by developing compassionate self-awareness, you can finally free yourself from this cycle of self-sabotage, so you can nurture greater self-acceptance and cultivate secure, healthy, and lasting relationships.
About the Author :
Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD, is an internationally published author, speaker, and psychologist. She is a trusted expert on relationship issues that people have with themselves, as well as with others. She is author of Insecure in Love and Bouncing Back from Rejection. She writes the Making Change blog for www.psychologytoday.com. In addition, she has created a library of short videos on her YouTube channel to offer people the opportunity to learn how to feel better about themselves and their lives.
Becker-Phelps has a private practice in Basking Ridge, NJ; and is on the medical staff of Robert Wood Johnson University Hospital Somerset, where she previously served as clinical director of women’s psychological services, and chief of psychology in the department of psychiatry. She lives with her husband and two sons in Basking Ridge. Find out more about her at www.drbecker-phelps.com.
Review :
“This book does what it promises, to walk us through the steps it will take to love ourselves and others. I was particularly moved by the exercises. They not only show us where our work is, but help us do it! Leslie’s book is a toolkit for skillful relating. Best of all, it is written with great compassion for all of us who are still trying to get relating right.”
—David Richo, PhD, author of How to Be an Adult in Relationships
“The Insecure in Love Workbook is a practical, compassionate guide that gives a clear pathway forward out of an anxious attachment style and into greater self-love and relational security.”
—Eli Harwood, author of Securely Attached
“Following the excellence of Insecure in Love, this workbook is a highly recommended next step to put the amazing and deep insights of the text into practice. Anyone looking to live in a secure love relationship will be wisely guided along the path. We recommend it for everyone.”
—Harville Hendrix, PhD, and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, coauthors of Getting the Love You Want
“Close relationships are the source of our great joys, but also great pains and grief. This wide-ranging insight from the book expertly guides readers through some of the processes underpinning our ability to form and nurture close relationships (attachments), and how to develop insight into how our minds function when in relationships. Bringing together many different strands from different therapies such as cognitive behavior therapy (CBT), mindfulness, mentalizing, and others, Becker-Phelps offers multiple ways we can come to understand ourselves and develop our capacity for working with the ups-and-downs and complexities of close relationships. This is a marvelous resource for those wanting to explore their own relating style and how to improve it.”
—Paul Gilbert, PhD, FBPsS, OBE, professor of clinical psychology at the university of Derby (UK); visiting professor at the University of Queensland, Australia; and author of The Compassionate Mind and Living Like Crazy
“This transformative workbook, with the compassionate guidance of Becker-Phelps, will result in increased self-awareness and self-love. Improving your relationship with yourself will prepare and enable you to have the healthy love relationship that you desire and deserve. The Insecure in Love Workbook is an essential guide for anyone longing for love.”
—Michelle Skeen, PsyD, author of several self-help books, including Love Me, Don’t Leave Me and Why Can’t I Let You Go?
