Try to See It My Way: Being Fair in Love and Marriage

A deeply probing book that gets to the heart of what all healthy romantic relationships need: fairness. Most couples enter a marriage hoping it can last forever. So, why are more and more relationships failing over time? As Dr. B. Janet Hibbs explains, poor communication skills or inherent differences between men and women are not solely to blame. The answer lies much deeper? the key to healthy, loving relationships is fairness. Without a sense of fairness, marriages fail. Intuitively, we think we know what is ?fair.? But as this book reveals, the way we each define ?what's fair? is much more complex, and is powerfully shaped by our family expectations and experiences. Fairness issues underlie everyday problems that become larger than life, such as: "Why don?t you ever help clean the house? Why don?t you ask me how my day was anymore?" Or, they can create family loyalty conflicts that sound like this: "Why do you always let your mother tell you what to do?" The ?growing pains? in relationships? around money, children, and sex?all require the skills to negotiate what's fair. Here, Dr. B. Janet Hibbs provides readers with a road map for recognizing imbalances and building a stronger, more loving relationship based on a new kind of fairness?one that they create "with" their partner. Filled with compassion, practical advice, and compelling, real-life examples throughout, this book offers a groundbreaking understanding of the root cause of conflicts that erode relationships. It is essential reading for therapists and all couples.

About the Author :
B. Janet Hibbs, Ph.D., is a psychologist and marriage and family therapist with more than twenty-five years of experience. In addition to her private practice, Hibbs lectures at academic conferences and to other groups across the country. Dr. Hibbs has been married for more than twenty years and has two teenage children. Karen J. Getzen, Ph.D., is the author of "Resilient Marriages." Dr. Getzen has been married for thirty-five years and has two adult children.

Review :
?If you?ve ever felt unfairly treated by your partner, this book is a must read. "Try to See It My Way" is full of compelling ideas, clinically informed practical advice, and deep insight into how we understand and solve the ancient relationship problem of ?What's fair ?Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., author of "How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To". aIf youave ever felt unfairly treated by your partner, this book is a must read. "Try to See It My Way" is full of compelling ideas, clinically informed practical advice, and deep insight into how we understand and solve the ancient relationship problem of aWhatas fair?aa aJanis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., author of "How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To,"