What if differences could strengthen your personal connections instead of frustrating them?
Discover how God designed us uniquely to connect, grow, and thrive together—even through our differences. Connecting Across Differences explores how God designed us with unique differences and how this can strengthen our personal and professional relationships when approached with empathy and grace. Using biblical wisdom and practical tools, James Borishade invites readers into a journey of self-discovery, relational growth, and healing through faith-based principles. He gives readers the tools needed to navigate conflicts and build deeper, more fulfilling connections in family, work, and beyond.
Connecting Across Differences is a guide for fostering meaningful relationships in all areas of life, from friendships to work relationships to marriage and more. Rooted in the Bible, this book provides actionable advice that helps our differences strengthen our bonds rather than divide us. Whether you are seeking to grow personally, overcome challenging relational situations, or improve workplace dynamics, you'll be equipped with a road map for better communication.
Key Features:
- Put Biblical Wisdom into Practice: Discover Scripture-based insights and actionable tools for better daily communication.
- Master Communication Skills: Learn to communicate with intention in any setting such as your church, home, workplace, and more.
- Navigate Conflict with Grace: Gain skills to help avoid needless conflict in any kind of relationship.
Connecting Across Differences reminds us that God designed our individuality not to separate us but to bring us together. This book is a treasure for Christians seeking to strengthen their connections with others while growing in empathy, grace, and understanding. Begin the transformation toward more meaningful communication and better relationships today!
Table of Contents:
Introduction
1. What if There's Nothing Wrong with You?
2. Designed to Be Different: A Look at Creation
3. Embracing the People Who Drive You Crazy
4. When Behavior Is Really Biography
5. From Cold Wars to Close Hearts
6. The Anatomy of Disconnection
7. Why We Love the Way We Do
8. The Roots Beneath the Reaction: Parenting Styles and Emotional Triggers
9. Why We Reach, Why We Run: Attachment Styles and the Dance of Connection
10. Making it Work: Tools for Real-Life Connection
Acknowledgements
Recommended Resources
Notes
About the Author :
James Borishade (PhD, Christian Bible Institute and Seminary) is the CEO of Circle Urban Ministries. With experience as the executive director of Jumpstart for Young Children and as a community leader, he has a deep understanding of how formative experiences shape individuals and communities. Borishade's work focuses on reconciliation, identity, and the imago Dei. He draws from research and practical experience to foster understanding and healing. Borishade lives in Chicago with his wife, Dominque, and their children.
Review :
"James Borishade writes with the honesty of one who has walked through brokenness and the hope of one who has discovered God's design for connection. He weaves Scripture, life lessons, and leadership insights into a compelling guide for building stronger relationships. James reminds us that our differences are not problems to solve but gifts to embrace—threads in God's divine tapestry. I have seen James live this message as CEO of Circle Urban Ministries and as a friend. His words carry authenticity and practical wisdom that will bless every reader."
"James Borishade's book is a gift. With wisdom, compassion, and grounded tools, Connecting Across Differences helps us move beyond defensiveness and disconnection. It shows us how to deeply listen, speak honestly, and stay present—even when it's hard. A must-read for anyone committed to growing relationships at home and work."
"In a sea of self-help books, this one stands out because it places self-awareness in service of healthy relationships. With humility and grace, James Borishade combines sound biblical theology, academic insights, practical examples, and a wealth of hard-won wisdom. What a great book for couples, small group studies, and anyone open to growth!"
"Connecting Across Differences is a powerful and grace-filled invitation to build relationships that reflect God's heart. Over the twenty-five years I've known James Borishade, I've witnessed the steady integrity, compassion, and wisdom that anchor his leadership and his life. This book captures that essence as James weaves Scripture, personal experience, and practical relational tools into a guide that is both inspiring and immediately useful. As a therapist and a believer, I appreciate how clearly he shows that our differences are not obstacles but opportunities and places where connection, maturity, and healing can grow. This is a meaningful and transformative resource for anyone committed to building stronger relationships at home, in the workplace, in ministry, or within the community. This book is a timely and transformative read."
