Getting it Right This Time: How to Create a Loving and Lasting Marriage

Although divorce is common, it often holds negative associations. Husband and wife team Barry and Emily McCarthy view divorce and remarriage with optimism, showing it to be a courageous choice that should not be viewed as personal failure but rather as a positive step towards a better life. In Getting it Right This Time, they zoom in on remarriage issues and identify the factors that led to the end of a marriage, using that information to help you learn from past mistakes and start over. Marriage is based on a respectful, trusting relationship, and the McCarthys affirm that remarriage is an important choice that can lead to a rich, rewarding, and loving second chance. Getting it Right This Time provides resources needed to assess and change attitudes, behavior, and feelings to help you build a new marriage and step-family that will bring out the best in you as individuals and as a couple.

Table of Contents:
What Happened to 'Happy Ever After?' The Courage to Divorce. Learning From the Past. Choosing Well. Money and Second Marriage. Intimacy and Sexuality. Stepfamilies and Stepparenting - Yours, Mine, and Ours. Should We Have a Child? Traps and Vulnerabilities. Understandings and Agreements. Dealing with the Ex-spouse. The Imperfect Marriage: Surviving Hard Times. Marriage After Fifty. Cost-benefit Assessment of Difficult Marriages. Pride and Acceptance. Appendix A: Choosing an Individual, Couple, or Family Therapist. Appendix B: Marriage and Stepfamily Support Groups and Enhancement Programs. Appendix C: Recommended Books.

About the Author :
Barry McCarthy, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at American University in Washington, a clinical psychologist, and a certified sex and marital therapist. He has published over fifty professional articles, twelve book chapters and has presented over one hundred and fifty workshops nationally and internationally. He has coauthored eight books with his wife. Emily J. McCarthy, having worked as a speech therapist, now collaborates with her husband on books that address issues faced by married couples. She has authored eight books with Barry, including Sexual Awareness, which has sold more than 500,000 copies.

Review :
"This is the best book to help people accept the reality of divorce and commit to a successful, satisfying re-marriage. Barry and Emily McCarthy's book is exceptional as an insightful, honest, humane, realistic, and wise guide for successful re-marriage." - Michael E. Metz, Ph.D., Psychologist, Marital & Sex Therapist, author of Coping with Premature Ejaculation and The Styles of Conflict Inventory "This practical, proactive, and wonderfully accessible book gives you just what you need; it busts destructive myths, provides clear examples about what is normal and what to expect along the way, and lays out easy-to-follow guidelines, exercises, and solutions. You'll become your own expert and create success for your stepfamily." - Diane Sollee, MSW, Founder and Director, SmartMarriages "There is a big need for a book that helps couples succeed in their second marriage, and the McCarthys have pulled it off with compassion, wisdom, and hope. No one needs to repeat past mistakes, and this book shows how to have a marriage better than you ever imagined it could be." - William J. Doherty, Ph.D., Professor of Family Social Science, University of Minnesota and author of Take Back Your Marriage "Getting It Right This Time' offer a realistic but encouraging view of second marriages, pointing out the perks as well as the pitfalls." - Star Tribune, Saturday Metro Edition "Getting It Right This Time provides anecdotes and exercises designed to help avoid past traps and make healthy, realistic choices for the future." - Newsday, Nassau and City Edition "Getting It Right This Time is a straightforward, clearly written, practical book for the general reader who has been divorced. It can also be a helpful book for those who are contemplating divorce, because the authors' discussion of past problems serves to put issues into perspetive in a way that may be helpful before one leaves one's first marriage. This is a basic "nuts and bolts" guidebook that would be a useful resource for couple therapists to recommend for those who want to read a self-help that has specific advice and guidelines." - Mary Ann Norfleet, PsycCRITIQUES, Contemporary Psychology: APA Review of Books, May 24, 2006 Vol. 51 (21), Article 3 "Getting It Right This Time: How to Create A Loving and Lasting Marriage tells how to identify common vulnerabilities and traps so they don't affect a new relationship. From understanding how to commit to a second family to blending insights gained from research studies, Getting It Right This Time blends scholarship with practical application." - James A. Cox, Editor in Chief and Diane C. Donovan, Editor, The Official Newsletter of The Midwest Book Review, Page 1, Column2, Volume 5, Number 5, May 2006, ISSN 0896-6521 "Getting it Right This Time provides resources needed to assess and change attitudes, behavior, and feelings to help you build a new marriage and step-family that will bring out the best in you as individuals and as a couple." - Jonathan Kroll, Editor, ADOLESCENCE "This is the best book to help people accept the reality of divorce and commit to a successful, satisfying re-marriage. Barry and Emily McCarthy's book is exceptional as an insightful, honest, humane, realistic, and wise guide for successful re-marriage." - Michael E. Metz, Psychologist, Marital & Sex Therapist, author of Coping with Premature Ejaculation and The Styles of Conflict Inventory "This practical, proactive, and wonderfully accessible book gives you just what you need; it busts destructive myths, provides clear examples about what is normal and what to expect along the way, and lays out easy-to-follow guidelines, exercises, and solutions. You'll become your own expert and create success for your stepfamily." - Diane Sollee, MSW, Founder and Director, SmartMarriages "Getting It Right This Time is a straightforward, clearly written, practical book for the general reader who has been divorced. It can also be a helpful book for those who are contemplating divorce, because the authors' discussion of past problems serves to put issues into perspetive in a way that may be helpful before one leaves one's first marriage. This is a basic "nuts and bolts" guidebook that would be a useful resource for couple therapists to recommend for those who want to read a self-help that has specific advice and guidelines." - Mary Ann Norfleet, PsycCRITIQUES, Contemporary Psychology: APA Review of Books, May 24, 2006 Vol. 51 (21), Article 3 "Getting it Right This Time provides resources needed to assess and change attitudes, behavior, and feelings to help you build a new marriage and step-family that will bring out the best in you as individuals and as a couple." - Jonathan Kroll, Editor, ADOLESCENCE