If you want to discover the key elements for building a secure attachment with a child, you have come to the right book. Psychologist and psychotherapist Milena González presents the importance of learning to educate from a place of love that sustains, as well as limits that protect. In parenting, love and limits go hand in hand; they do not conflict with each other. Both are as necessary for a child's emotional health as food and sleep are for their physical health.
The book takes a comprehensive look at childhood and a compassionate view of those adults who, while not perfect, want to learn to see and treat the children in their lives with respect. All of this is done by deconstructing parenting models and patterns that affect not only the bond between parents and children, but also the mental health of the little ones.
Children construct an idea of themselves and the world around them based on the way they are viewed and treated by those who matter to them. To define themselves as capable or incapable, strong or weak, a failure or the opposite, they will draw on their emotional memory and remain faithful to the words, looks and treatment they received mainly from those who defined them in their early years. It is never too late to learn to do things differently. By reading this book, you will discover how to improve relationships with children by building a secure attachment.
Table of Contents:
1. Introduction 2. Let's talk about children's mental health 2.1 What is mental health and how has it been affected in recent years? 2.2 Social crises as a possible traumatic factor for the mental health of children and families 2.3 Children's fear and anxiety in difficult situations 2.4 How can we help children in difficult situations that cause them concern, fear, or anxiety? 3. Assertive parenting as the basis for protecting for children's mental health 3.1 What is assertive parenting? 3.2 Myths about assertive parenting 3.3 What to do when your extended family criticizes your parenting style of assertive parenting? 3.4 "Bad behavior" is a cry for help 3.5 Understanding the emotional and rational brain to comprehend child behavior 3.6 Raising children "without spoiling them"? 4. The child and the gaze of their caregivers 4.1 From persecutors, saviors, or victims to guardians of resilience 4.2 How does a child build a belief about himself? And how can we help them? 4.3 I'm OK, you're OK 5. Attachment and its relationship to mental health 5.1 Why secure attachment is important for children 5.2 Adult attachment. My own attachment style 5.3 Does being attached mean having a secure attachment? 5.4 The five keys to being a secure base 6. Understanding psychological trauma 6.1 The physiological response in optimal and traumatic conditions 6.2 Physical punishment, the brain, and trauma 6.3 What makes an experience traumatic? 6.4 The four elements for contingent communication contingent communication: 3 Cs and an E 7. Emotions, the great unknowns 7.1 All emotions "have their talent"; there are no good or bad emotions 7.2 Basic emotions and the two major psychobiological systems psychobiological systems: approach and defense 7.3 Emotions explained to adults and children 7.4 Integrating emotion and behavior with the MAC method 8. Anxiety and mental health 8.1 Anxiety and the brain 8.2 Anxiety and the car metaphor 8.3 Help your child cope with anxiety and emotions defense mechanisms, talking about it, and thinking about it 8.4 Five essential actions to reduce anxiety and stress in childhood caregiving techniques 9. References
About the Author :
Milena González is a psychologist specializing in Trauma, Attachment, and Emotional Education. She completed a Master's Degree in Emotional Intelligence at the University of Valencia. An expert in brief psychotherapy with children and adolescents, clinical and trauma intervention with EMDR. Certified as a Positive Discipline Educator for Families and in the Classroom by the Positive Discipline Association and the Spanish Association of Positive Discipline. In addition to her private practice, she teaches training courses in centers dedicated to promoting treatment of children and assertive parenting workshops for Spanish-speaking families and teachers. She also promotes assertive parenting through her social media accounts: @unamamapsicologa_.
