To Forgive Is Human: How to Put Your Past in the Past

Forgiving can be one of the hardest things you'll ever do. Perhaps you sense deep down that it will be good for you and others to put the past in the past. But sometimes no matter what you do, you just can't seem to forgive and get on with life. You still feel hurt, bitter and angry.How can you break the cycle? Grounding their analysis and advice in the latest psychological research, the authors of To Forgive Is Human reveal how you can forgive and begin to repair broken relationships. Inside you'll discover why, when you forgive, it sometimes doesn't last what you can learn about forgiveness from the latest brain research why you can't forgive by forgetting why simply deciding to forgive often doesn't do the trick how memory research can help you actually change your memories what it means to forgive yourself how to balance justice and mercy how children can learn to forgive how you can gain empathy for those who have hurt you Life is messy. Relationships are messy. And forgiveness is messy. But with this complete book on forgiveness, you can learn how to move ahead positively and constructively in ways you may never have thought possible.To err may be human, but so is to forgive.

Table of Contents:
Acknowledgments Introduction 1. Forgiveness You 2. Forgiveness the Moral Sense 3. Forgiveness Rational Thought. 4. Forgiveness Rational Thought: Limitations 5. Forgiveness Your Response to Hurts 6. Forgiveness Transformation 7. Forgiveness, the Brain the Mind 8. Forgiveness Your Memory 9. Forgiveness Motivations. 10. Forgiveness Stories. 11. Forgiveness Self-Condemnation 12. Forgiveness Your Own Hurtful Actions 13. Forgiveness Its Consequences for You 14. Forgiveness the Family 15. Forgiveness the Healing of Communitiess. Notes

About the Author :
Steven J. Sandage (PhD, LP) is the Albert and Jessie Danielsen Professor of Psychology of Religion and Theology at Boston University and research director and senior staff psychologist at the Danielsen Institute. He has faculty appointments at Boston University in the School of Theology, the department of Psychological and Brain Sciences, and the graduate division of religious studies. His co-authored/coedited books include To Forgive is Human, The Faces of Forgiveness, Transforming Spirituality, The Skillful Soul of the Psychotherapist, and Forgiveness and Spirituality: A Relational Approach. He has also published articles and chapters on forgiveness, humility, spirituality in psychotherapy, psychology of religion, intercultural competence and social justice, narcissism, borderline personality disorder, and suicide, among other areas. Sandage?s research has been funded by the John Templeton Foundation, the Lilly Endowment, and the Fetzer Institute. Currently, he practices as a Licensed Psychologist at the Danielsen Institute with clinical specializations including couple and family therapy, multicultural therapy, and spiritually-integrative therapy. He also provides diversity training for mental health, educational, ministry, and business settings. Everett L. Worthington Jr. (Ph.D., University of Missouri) is professor of psychology at Virginia Commonwealth University. He is a licensed clinical psychologist and former executive director of the Templeton Foundation's A Campaign for Forgiveness Research. Worthington has studied forgiveness since the 1980s and has published more than two hundred articles and papers on forgiveness, marriage and family, psychotherapy and virtue in a wide variety of journals and magazines. He was the founding editor of Marriage and Family: A Christian Journal and sits on the editorial boards of several professional journals. He has appeared on Good Morning America, CNN and The 700 Club and been featured in award-winning documentary movies on forgiveness such as The Power of Forgiveness and The Big Question. He is the author of seventeen books including Handbook of Forgiveness, Hope-Focused Marriage Counseling and Forgiving and Reconciling. McCullough (Ph.D., Virginia Commonwealth University) is associate professor of psychology at the University of Miami in Coral Gables, Florida. Formerly, he was director of research for the National Institute for HealthCare Research (NIHR) in Rockville, Maryland.