Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating

It's all about cheating--the biggest threat to intimacy. Typically, men are good at creating rifts in relationships but terrible at mending them, especially after they've repeatedly betrayed their partner through sexual infidelity. For the most part, cheating men are both intimacy-challenged and empathy-challenged, and, as such, they lack the skills needed to overcome the damage wrought by their infidelity. Robert Weiss has spent over twenty years in the treatment of sex and intimacy issues. He's helped both cheating men and their betrayed spouses move through the horrors of infidelity. In Out of the Doghouse he shares his expertise, illuminating the ways in which men can move beyond their usual feeble efforts to smooth things over. Saying "I'm sorry" and trying to "buy forgiveness" with flowers and jewelry may temporarily calm the stormy seas of infidelity. However, these actions do nothing to re-establish intimacy and trust—the key components to help the distraught woman feel better about her relationship over the long-term and get over the cheating. The simple truth is men and women are very different when it comes to intimacy and relationships. While men are able to compartmentalize things like sexual infidelity, women typically view cheating as an affront to their entire relationship. They think, "If he is lying to me about sex, he's probably lying to me about everything." For betrayed women, trust just flat-out disintegrates. And without proper guidance, men have little hope of restoring it. Weiss provides exactly the needed guidance in Out of the Doghouse, helping men move past the usual infidelity roadblocks that result from cheating in ways that will not only save a damaged relationship, but restore intimacy to make it better than ever.

About the Author :
Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S is Senior Vice President of Clinical Development with Elements Behavioral Health. A UCLA graduate and personal trainee of Dr. Patrick Carnes, he founded the Sexual Recovery Institute in Los Angeles in 1995. He has developed clinical programs for The Ranch in Nunnelly, Tennessee, Promises Treatment Centers in Malibu, and the aforementioned Sexual Recovery Institute in Los Angeles. He has also provided clinical multi-addiction training and behavioral health program development for the US military and numerous other treatment centers throughout the United States, Europe, and Asia. Weiss has served as a media specialist for CNN, The Oprah Winfrey Network, the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, and the Today Show, among many others.

Review :
Rob Weiss's Out of the Doghouse provides long-needed, clear-cut insight and guidance for unfaithful men who wish to regain the trust of a betrayed female partner. In a no-nonsense way, Rob cuts through the overwhelming, but ultimately unproductive defensiveness that cheating men typically express when infidelity is first uncovered, helping them to gain insight into themselves and their life priorities. The book also helps these men gain empathy for the traumatic emotional challenges that infidelity brings to a loving spouse. Lastly, and most importantly the book provides cheating men with step-by-step directions toward healing the pain of intimate betrayal, while also giving them room to be certain of their next steps. Those men who take this book to heart can't help but develop the integrity and open-heartedness required for long-term loving relationships. So basically, this book is a primer on how a man can save his relationship/marriage after cheating and grow emotionally at the same time.   —Dan Griffin, MA Author of A Man's Way Through Relationships