From Heartbreak to Healing: 10 Psychological Steps to Overcoming Grief

Grief is universal, yet deeply personal. At some point, every human life encounters the devastating rupture of loss, whether through the death of a loved one, the collapse of a cherished relationship, or the shattering of a long-held dream. In that moment, the familiar world becomes unrecognisable. Routines lose their meaning, silence grows louder than words, and the simple act of getting through each day can feel overwhelming. From Heartbreak to Healing: 10 Psychological Steps to Overcoming Grief is a compassionate, research-based guide that honours the complexity of mourning while offering gentle, practical ways forward. Author Vera Darax draws upon psychological insights, cultural traditions, and lived experiences to dismantle the myths that surround grief-such as the idea that time alone heals all wounds, or that "moving on" means forgetting. Instead, this book reframes grief as a profound expression of love, a process of integration rather than erasure. Healing is not about closing the door on the past, but about finding the courage to carry your loss in ways that reshape and strengthen you. Across ten steps, the book serves as a supportive companion rather than a rigid instruction manual. Each chapter offers a lens through which to understand grief and strategies for coping with its unpredictable rhythms. Readers are encouraged to acknowledge the shock of loss without guilt, to give themselves unconditional permission to feel their emotions fully, and to let go of outdated models that suggest grief unfolds neatly in stages. Practical guidance is offered on creating personal rituals of remembrance, seeking support to counter isolation, and tending to the body as well as the mind, recognising that grief manifests physically as much as emotionally. Darax emphasises that grief is not linear. Like waves on an unpredictable sea, emotions rise and fall-anger one day, numbness the next, fleeting peace followed by sharp despair. By exploring these shifting states without judgment, readers are given permission to grieve in their own way and at their own pace. The book encourages the creation of rituals-lighting a candle, visiting a meaningful place, writing letters-that help bridge disbelief and reality, gently reinforcing the truth while providing comfort. It also highlights the importance of community and connection, while validating that every grief is unique and no one else can fully know the shape of your loss. As the chapters progress, From Heartbreak to Healing guides readers toward the gradual adjustments required when the world has been redefined by absence. It explores the concept of continuing bonds-finding ways to carry a loved one forward through memory, legacy, and love-while also supporting the slow reconstruction of a self that has been changed by loss. Rather than presenting healing as a return to "normal," the book frames it as an evolution: a transformation into someone who has been touched by grief but who can still embrace life. Ultimately, the final steps lead toward integration-the ability to hold both sadness and joy within the same heart. The past cannot be undone, and moments of sorrow will always surface, whether during anniversaries, songs, or unexpected reminders. But healing is about creating a spacious life, one that allows sorrow its place while also leaving room for new connections, new meaning, and new hope.